Q: I can’t believe I’m writing this, but I’ve found myself unexpectedly single. My ex dumped me recently and I didn’t see it coming. He said it was him and not me and that he just didn’t want to be in a serious relationship with anyone right now. He asked me to stay friends with him but made it clear that’s all it will be, and said he still loved me, but not in that way and it was the wrong thing for him right now. I am in shock. I’ve met his family and I thought we might have moved in together next year. My friends want me to come out for all the Christmas parties we had planned, but I just can’t get out of bed or stop crying. He wasn’t mean or anything, and I don’t think he was cheating or anything like that. How can I accept that it’s just over, and be friends with him?