Ask Allison: I’m not in love with my husband but I don’t want to hurt him or our children by leaving. Should I have a secret affair?

Question: I’m a 54-year-old female who has been married over 25 years. Our children are all in college but still live at home and will do for the foreseeable future. I am married to a good man, a great father but I am not in love with him. He isn’t a bad man – in fact he has done everything to support our family.