Dear Mary: I’m friends with a colleague twice my age, but I worry our banter and private messages are inappropriate

Dear Mary: I’m friends with a colleague twice my age, but I worry our banter and private messages are inappropriate

Question: A few months ago I started working in an office in the public sector. I am 19. At the same time other people were starting too, including a 40-year-old man. We get along like a house on fire. It is mostly childish stuff, basically memes or pop culture references. He is surprisingly aware of what’s going on in the celebrity world for a man of his age. Honestly, it’s ‘fart joke’ level stuff and we are both usually reduced to giggles by the end of coffee break, much to the confusion of our co-workers.

Ian Dempsey: ‘I think I am able to compartmentalise things. That’s why?I haven’t really grieved for my ?mother’s death’

Ian Dempsey: ‘I think I am able to compartmentalise things. That’s why?I haven’t really grieved for my ?mother’s death’

A few months after Gerry Ryan died in 2010, fellow radio star Ian Dempsey saw his widow, Morah. It was across a crowded room at a function in The Mansion House in Dublin. “I hadn’t seen her for ages,” Dempsey says. “I waved over at her like a mad thing. Unfortunately, it was in the middle of a charity auction and I found myself bidding on a weekend in New York…”

Conor Skehan: Our emigrants changed other countries, so let’s accept the same thing happening here

Conor Skehan: Our emigrants changed other countries, so let’s accept the same thing happening here

For two centuries, America absorbed Ireland’s exiles. Now, in a neat twist of history, increasing numbers of Americans are looking the other way. After Donald Trump’s return to the White House, applications for Irish passports from the US have surged to decade-high levels. In 2024 alone, Americans filed more than 31,800 Irish passport applications; entries on the foreign births register jumped by half to 11,600. Immigration firms report 300pc spikes in inquiries whenever US politics turns particularly toxic.